Some people say that it is good to get married at early age when you are young and full of energy while others argue that it is better to get married a bit later when you have a foundation for a happy family.
What is your own opinion? What is the best way to follow? Please share with us with what view you hold/prefer/like and support your opinion with your personal stories, details, facts and explanation.
Julia Child:
The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they're right if you love to be with them all of the time.
Ogden Nash:
Marriage is the alliance of two people, one of whom never remembers birthdays and the other who never forgets.
Rita Rudner:
I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewelry.
Robert C. Dodds:
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
I liked Rita Rudner's saying, sounds great, that's what actually we, women usually do, suffer the pain and buy jewellery :)
ReplyDeleteGenerally speaking, I don't know what to say regarding the exact age for marriage, guess nobody can say what it is, you should just feel it and know that you really want to do it, not like because you have to or that's what people say. Cause marriage is such an important act and decision you make in your life and that one is supposed to do for a life time --- you definitely should be sure of the action you are taking. Well, that's what came to my mind now, but let me see what other say and I'll b able to generate my brain better :)
Thanks. Great topic!
I think that people shouldnt hurry! Marriage is a very serious step in a persons life thats why we should be ready to this/ At first we should have a well paid job or at least have a good education/ We shouldnt rely upon our parents, Because when we get married begins our own life and that time we should try to provide our family and help parents, Not wise versa! When people are young they fell in love and think that its forever, they forget everything and get married, But when some time pass they begin convince that it was just a weakness and get divorced/ And that time suffer their children/ We must think about marieg a lot and when make this step! The Family is one of the natures masterpieces! Its bad when these masterpieces broke! So, Akmalaka I think its not bad that you havent get married! As a proverb says : Slow, but sure!
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Of course marriage is diffucult and seriouse step in life of each person! But...Love is so unusual and divine feeling and we can fall in love at any time! Sometimes man/woman can't meet their second part during all life and stay alone, but sometimes people find their love at teenager time and stay togethe before death will not separate them! If you love this person why you should wait time, when you will make more money! Certainly money is important for marriage but in my opinion will be better if you will reach tops in life together! First if you want to get marriage you must be sure that really want do it! This depends from man's character! Because smb can decide do it at 18 but smb not decide at 60! For men age is not so important as for women! So i think that women must get marriage up to 30, and men will get marriage when they be ready and want to do it!
ReplyDeleteIn Uzbekistan there are some problems in many uzbek families about marriage and the best of it . Usually Parents choose a couple for their child , they look for good (in case of money) families , even sometimes do not ask their child if this person is good to be his/her couple , and get poor boy/girl married in 18 or 19 years old ,in spite of that parents can choose a far relative! I think that this is wrong and people should get married at age of 20-30 and choose themselves their "half"
ReplyDeleteFarruh welcome to our on-line community!!!! Have a nice blogging. Guys this blog is originally dedicated to free-writing where you will not worry too much about your grammar. However, some of our students in our group asked me to correct their grammar slightly so that they know about it and try to improve.
ReplyDeleteSo here is my first feed-back: Please remember that Russian sentence structure is different from English. Try to avoid translating directly from Russian into English.
Remember that in English we usually follow subject + verb + object + place + time formula.
Very good point made by Irina ''If you love smb then don't wait. Achieve the tops of life together.'' Because every hour and every minute is precious. In my opinion getting married is not final destination for which you should be fully prepared and fully equipped. It is and it should be the beginning of a long journey. It is and it should be the beginning. It is a process of building your happiness with a person who you love and respect!!!! Right???
ReplyDeleteI disagree with a point which says that you should get married when you want. What if you never want or what if you want when it is too late? Do we really live for ourselves in this life? About 6 years ago one person told me the following: Mind and Heart/Soul should work together and cooperate. People often act and do things listening to their hearts and current emotional state then at the end of the day they regret about what they did. I think when you are getting married there should a some kind of logic and respect for people around yourself be definitely involved.
To Akmal aka: In my opinion, if you want to spend all your life with one person you must want it! Getting married is not compulsion, it's a big desire! If smb doesn't want get married, why he/she must do it?! So, if you never want to get marriage- it's your life! And you should solve this problem with yourselfe! Maybe, you're not ready for this! Better late than never!
ReplyDeleteI think 18-year-old is too young to marry. People are still growing and finding themselves at 18 and in my opinion, are not mature enough to take on the responsibilities of marriage.
ReplyDeleteNow very many young people live together without marriage and they check their relationship. And I think that it is true! Because you must to try this new adult live. You should not hurry with your choice because it is very important and serious step in a new Life!=)
Also I think that we should get married only if we really Love him/her !!!
Above all, the right age to marry depends on your own personal experience .
I think 18-year-old is too young to marry. People are still growing and finding themselves at 18 and in my opinion, are not mature enough to take on the responsibilities of marriage.
ReplyDeleteNow very many young people live together without marriage and they check their relationship. And I think that it is true! Because you must to try this new adult live. You should not hurry with your choice because it is very important and serious step in a new Life!=)
Also I think that we should get married only if we really Love him/her !!!
Above all, the right age to marry depends on your own personal experience .
Vika..
Well, fascinating question by the way.
ReplyDeleteThere is a tradition in Korea about getting married. Man who is going to marry should possess three keys: home's key, office's key (work) and car's key. Only in this case girl's parents allow them to get married.
In my opinion it is good way, because when you are sure yourself, when you have a job and house you will be certain that you can start new life and you can care about your own family. It's my opinion.
OK Doston did you check if this tradition is working well and making people happy who want to get married in Korea???? Yes, I agree that you should be prepared but you don't really have to have everything to get married. It is not like you go to the supermarket and buy your happiness. Marriage is something that you should start with someone who you love and build your own world of happiness. It is not smth which you prepare, build and present to your person who you love.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to be prepared for marriage different people can spend different amount of time. Someone can prepare everything like house, car, career in 1 or 2 years but for some people it takes more that 10 years.
I am not saying that you should not be prepared at all or you should be prepared 100 %. You should definitely have a base or foundation or smth called essentials/the basic things like ... let's say a job which will allow you to provide yourself, your wife and kids (if any) with some basic foods (e.g: bread, fruit, veg and etc.)
Or let's suppose that you have these 3 things (car, career and house) but do you all guys think that YOU should also be MATURE enough to get married??? What do you say???? :-))))
Hello everybody!!! Great TOPIC,really!!!
ReplyDeleteYou know,no one can say the exact age getting marry,because you must be prepared to do this step,i think one of the MAIN step in your life,but it is too easy to get married - THE MAJOR IDEA is to live the whole life with this person!!!Like, we can say that it is easy to conceive the child - BUT THE MAIN THING is to bring up the child to be a GOOD MAN!!! Yes,may be not the best example,but it is my opinion!!! And i agree with Viktoria,that 18 isn't enough to MARRY,because in this tender age we can't be completely rational,and our MIND AND SOUL can't work together,but every rule has an exclusion and it depends on MAN)))
I think that every marriage is not only the stamp in the passport - IT IS SOMETHING highly significant! We must be completely prepared for this one, and not only obeying our emotions))) AND PREPARED isn't mean only MONEY,absolutely NO - IT MEANS how you prepared inside yourself!!!
And the LAST - SUCH SERIOUS STEP NEEDN'T HURRY!!!
THANKS)))
I don’t know what age is the best for marriage. Marriage is a very serious step in a persons life. Marriage is official ceremony and it is not compulsory, because the main aim of marriage is love and man and woman can love each other without marriage. They can do it,
ReplyDeleteif they realy want and age is not important
Guriy :-)
Each person should choose suitable age and time to marriage, and it depends only on him. However
ReplyDeletein my opinion the man should marriage when he reaches all necessary things for family life...For instance: when he is capable to buy home, but I repeat this choice depends only on you, because it is your life, and it is the serious decision!
Shavkat what about you??? Will you buy house and prepare everything and then get married?? Will you do it all yourself???
ReplyDeleteI don't know you guys but I view getting married at the early age quite positively. Because person can be mature and strong enough (I mean mentally) to face and overcome the difficulties, obstacles and challenges of life at the age of 18-20 and person can not even be ready to make any kinds of decisions, take risks or do smth independently at the age of 25 or above.
ReplyDeleteI think getting married is also connected to how independent you are in your life!!!!
QUESTION TO EVERYBODY: Do you think you are independent guys? If yes, to what extend??? How do you know it?
For example if I talk about myself I was not brought up to be independent in my own family. When I was a child, teenager my parents would provide me with everything that I needed and I wanted (well, almost everything). I was never taught that I should EARN the things in my life.
Then.... well come back later and then you will find out what :-)))))
To Mr.Akmal: Yes I marry only when I will reach all it and when I will be capable to provide my family without somebody's help!!!!
ReplyDeleteseems like it is a bachelor party full of young man worrying about getting married, the topic is good but I think you should change the question Akmal
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ReplyDeleteBecause person can be mature and strong enough (I mean mentally) to face and overcome the difficulties, obstacles and challenges of life at the age of 18-20 and person can not even be ready to make any kinds of decisions, take risks or do smth independently at the age of 25 or above.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Akmalaka, but there are few persons, who is fully independent.May be this age(18-19)for marriage is suitable for girls, but for boys I think it is early.
Do you think you are independent guys
I can say thatI'm not fully independent in some ways.
OK guys, everybody has own idea, own decision and own life. So let's move to article below, if you read it very attentively you can understand something which is very important in our life and family. You should know about this before getting married. You should read this article and you can realize what age is good to get married! =)
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous participant,
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for your feed-back. I do respect the way how you feel about our topic. If you found it offensive or not age-appropriate please kindly e-mail me at uzbekistan2104@rambler.ru and please give a precise explation for it.
I will deal with it very shortly and next time I will be very careful when announcing new topics.
I want all our blog users to be happy when they participate in our discussions.
Please accept my apoligies one more time.
Kind regards,
Akmal
Oh,so brave anonymous =) Do not tell to Mr.Akmal what he better do since this person is much more intelligent... and I do not care whether it is my business or not. Moreover,if you do not like anything here just do not visit this page,please!
ReplyDeleteDear Sarvar,
ReplyDeleteWell it is OK. Different people are different and they react differently. Our blog is open, tolerant and democratic. I was also a bit sad to read that kind of comment. But it is OK. :--))))
By the way,when will you tell me who they are(AUBG)? =)
ReplyDeleteuuuuuuu/...What I missed....anyway it's a marvellous topic!!!And don't regret!!
ReplyDeleteactually I'm late and to all of this opinions I want to add that it's important to choose that man/woman,who is really yours!!!Don't lose your mind/head!!!
ReplyDeleteDear Madina I read your comment. First sentence is too long and therefore it is a bit difficult to follow your idea and understand exactly what you wanted to say. In English we try to keep length of our sentences balanced. They should not too short and they should not be too long. When you (everybody) finish typing your comments, please go up and read it through. I am sure you will find your own mistakes and want to correct it. This is how you can improve your communication skills in written form. In general you guys doing a good job!!! ENJOY BLOGGING!!!! :--))))
ReplyDeleteI believe that I am almost fully independent now. Actually I became independent when I had to travel to Dubai and work for sometime. This is financially. Working abroad was an eye-opening experience.:--)))
ReplyDeletedear Akmalaka, can you right what sentence you mean?
ReplyDeleteto Shavkat : Mr Shavkat, you will need support in your whole life, it is the rule of our life. And you can not reach all in reality.
ReplyDeleteIt is high time to get merry if you finish all you studies at university and get a well paid job it might be from 22 years old to 25
Akmal, it is a pity that criticism hurt you, but this is not an apology. I believe that your blog will improve with such critics. Now speaking about Sarvar's message, I understand this reaction- in Russian it is called 'yunosheskiy maximalism', but I believe this is a place where users or guests like me can express their opinion.
ReplyDeleteSarvar, please do worry about your level of intelligence and leave other people to themselves. I have never doubted Akmal's being smart, besides what i wrote has nothing to do with his intelligence.
I am not hurt at all. But I will be defenitely hurt deeply if you leave our blog. :--(((((
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